Some people say that I'm girly, yet some people say that I'm not. I guess it depends on what your definition of girly is. Based on what some people think, being girly means what you're vain and you act like a princess. And your favourite colour is probably pink. (Stupid, stereotypical image of girls)
But the world is changing and sometimes guys are girly too. They can be vainer and bitchier than girls. The lines are blurred so I don't think that definition applies anymore.
Just for fun, I'm gonna make a list of why people think that I'm girly and why not. (And also because I'm quite free since both my tuition lessons got cancelled tomorrow.)
Girly? Not really.
- I don't put on make-up.
People associate girls with make-up. (Obviously.) But since I don't put on make-up, people think that I'm not girly or vain. There are two reasons as to why I don't. The first reason is because I'm lazy. Putting on make-up is probably a tedious process. You have buy cosmetics, which probably cost a lot. Then you'd have to practice applying it onto your face and stare at yourself in the mirror. You'd have to wake up earlier to put on make-up before going out as well.
I can't. I'm too lazy. I can't be bothered to do any of this.
The second reason as to why I don't put on make-up is that I don't know how to. And I can't really be bothered to learn. (Refer to the first reason as stated above.) But I guess I'll still have to learn, someday. So that I can put on make-up for formal occasions and stuff.
(I know I mentioned in a previous blog post that maybe I should learn how to put on make-up or something, but obviously I still haven't gotten around to doing so. Hahaha yes, I'm that lazy.)
- I find that shopping is a chore.
Even some guys enjoy shopping a lot more than I do. But shopping really is a chore. I mean, when I was in primary school or something, my parents used to bring the family out every Saturday and we'd go shopping at Orchard. Or at People's Park. (So that my mother can shop at OG and my father can shop at Sim Lim Square. They'd quarrel almost every Saturday, too.) Anyway, it was torture. It was boring. It was tiring. We'd walk around until my feet hurt. I'd ask if we could go home, and I'd sit down whenever I could.
Shopping with friends is still okay. It's more enjoyable because we'd talk about all kinds of things while we shop. So I treat it more like an outing to spend time with my (girly) friends and a form of exercise (because of all that walking). And obviously if I see something I want and if I have enough money, I'd buy it. But other than that, shopping really is a chore. It's about walking around aimlessly (unless you know exactly what you want and where to get it) until you see something nice, which is time consuming and tiring.
No offence to people who love shopping!!
- I eat whatever I want, especially fried food.
I love to eat unhealthy food. There's a line from Savage Garden's song, "Affirmation", which goes "I believe that junk food tastes so good because it's bad for you." And it is so true. I love junk food. I love potato chips and fries (and basically all kinds of cooked potatoes actually) and soft drinks. I love salty stuff. I like the seasoning in mamee noodle snacks and MSG. I love putting a lot of salt on my friends in McDonald's and in Carl's Junior, where they provide salt and like you put as much as you want. I like the skin of fried chicken.
So what? Big deal. I'm not going to be all girly and eat vegetables all the time. Or just have a salad for lunch. No way. I'm gonna eat what I like (until I get sick again or something) because life's too short to torture yourself with disgusting kinds of food. Like broccoli.
Lately, I've been eating vegetables though. And consuming less salt. Because people care for me and they say that they don't want me to die young or something.
Also, I have never tried counting calories. I don't know why girly people count calories and say that they need to lose weight. Especially girls who are already skinny. (No offence to those who have done this before!)
- I don't exercise to slim down/ lose weight.
Sporty girls exercise because they like a certain sport, like swimming or cycling. They think that it's fun, so they exercise. They swim. They go for a game of tennis. Whatever.
But obviously, I'm not a sporty girl. I suck at sports. I hated having to run during PE lessons. It's not because I'm a girly girl and I hate perspiring. It's more like because I'm lazy and exercising is tiring. (Omg I'm such a sloth. I just realised that I keep repeating the fact that I'm lazy - the main reason why I don't do all this girly stuff - which means that being girly is hard work!)
People, who are actually girly, exercise. Because they are concerned with how they look and they want to be slimmer, more toned and lose weight. (This is linked to the previous point, about how girly people go on diets and count calories) I don't. I hardly exercise. During the past 8 months of my life (ever since the end of the 'A' levels) I haven't really exercised.
Okay, maybe once, because at the E6 chalet I cycled. Or twice, because we went to Pulau Ubin to cycle. Does going to the swimming complex/ wild wild wet count as exercise? Not really I guess, since I didn't swim laps and stuff.
- I don't get "Girl Speak" at times.
"Girl Speak" as in, the language most girls use to communicate with other girls. I think some guys are better than this than I am. Sometimes when I'm with some of my friends and they start talking about fashion, make-up, or even hot celebrities, I get lost. I tune out. I'm not really interested. Sorry. (And no, it's not because I'm a lesbian and I'm not interested in hot guys. I just don't "fan-girl" over stuff.)
- Burps. Eats messily.
In secondary school, I had a reputation for burping. In St. John, Amalina and I (and sometimes Atiqah, too) used to burp after drinking water from our 1.5 litre ice mountain water bottles. Hahaha. It was fun. Why do we have to be girly and pretend to be prim and proper anyway? We should behave however we want in front of our friends. Pretending sucks the life out of you.
But of course, I don't burp as much as before since people think that it's rude. I remember that during sec 4, we had this dining etiquette course thing and they brought us to Swensen's. Hahaha it was such a joke.
And I eat messily like my mum. We're Chinese. We eat Chinese food. Chinese food consists of rice. Rice comes in a bowl. The bowl is small. Rice spills from the bowl sometimes.
When you're hungry, you won't think so much and you'd just stuff food into your mouth. But girly girls would take small bites no matter what. Maybe that's the reason why I finish my food more quickly as compared to other girls. But compared to guys I'm really slow.
- I don't need company wherever I go.
Girls in school always go to the toilet in pairs. But it isn't necessary. I'm not the kind of person who'd ask all her friends to accompany me somewhere. I'd just ask one person and if that person didn't want to, I'd just go alone. It doesn't matter. I can go to the toilet by myself. I can go shopping alone. Whatever.
I decided to go for OBBD when I was in sec 3 even though I wasn't close with anyone else who was going. Because I knew that it'd be fun and I liked camping. (Girly people wouldn't like camping, anyway.)
- I don't understand how it is considered "brave" to be the one who turns off all the lights.
Because I'm not being "brave". I'm just not afraid of the dark. (I don't like bumping into furniture, though. So after switching off all the lights I use the light from my phone to guide my way if it's really dark.)
I've noticed that lots of girly people are afraid of the dark or something. I mean, obviously everyone has their own fears. It's not like I'm fearless or something. Some people are afraid of heights, some are afraid of thunder, and some are afraid of ghost or horror movies. (For me, I hate cockroaches because they are disgusting. Especially flying ones.)
I don't really know where I'm going with this, but it's just that people think that I'm brave, fearless, and not girly just because I dare to listen to ghost stories, switch off all the lights and ride some roller-coasters. I don't really get it.
Still girly!
- Likes princessy stuff.
I mean, duh! Most girls grew up with fairy-tales, and obviously so did I. I used to read "The Princess Diaries", too.
- Wants to be treated like a girl.
Face it, I'm still a girl. I still want guys to volunteer to carry heavy items for me. Besides, it's nice for guys to be gentlemanly and do stuff like opening doors for people. It's nice for girls to feel that they are being cared for and protected by a guy.
- Would be concerned if I was called "fat" or "ugly".
No one likes to be called fat or ugly, or any other word which has a negative connotation. But girls are especially sensitive to being called "fat" or "ugly", since we want to be "slim" and "pretty". I was definitely unhappy when my mother first said that I was "big sized". And someone said that I was ugly so I thought that I should try to put on make-up. (But obviously, laziness overruled that notion.)
- Still wants pretty clothes to wear and to look pretty in.
This is why even though I don't really like shopping, I still have to shop. If not I wouldn't have anything to wear!
There was this article in last week's "Urban" (the section about fashion which is part of The Straits Times. I don't really bother reading the newspaper so I only read it when my mother shows me some interesting article.) which was about fashion trends that women like and men don't. And there was one thing in the article that was really true: that women dressed to impress other women. I mean, other than trying to impress the guy they like, it was mentioned that women liked receiving compliments from other women and they dressed to differentiate themselves from other women.
Which is all so true. This is probably why we wouldn't like it if some other girl was wearing the same thing as us. And this is also why I somehow subconsciously keep track of what my friends had seen me wear before and I try not to wear the same outfit in front of the same people.
My sister just came back from Europe after a month! She bought me a necklace and some lip gloss. I think she is trying to influence me to be more girly.
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